The Next Best Steps
We all know I have ambitions to create my own personal brand to help others achieve self-mastery.
I am going to admit something in hopes it’ll resonate with ya’ll who want to create their own business but may feel daunted:
For the last few weeks I have been caught in analysis paralysis, like BAD.
Maybe it’s my Virgo Sun acting up or my Libra moon being indecisive AF, but I have no idea what the final outcome of my efforts is going to be.
Writing this newsletter, studying spirituality, & writing on twitter… I enjoy it but I have no idea where to steer this ship of interests.
I know this much:
I know I am in the process of learning new skills for my business (like reading astrology natal charts).
I know that I want to help others and spread my knowledge.
I know that I have a deep curiosity and passion for trauma healing, spirituality and wellness… basically all things self-improvement.
I for sure know that I have chosen a life path of growth and spiritual expansion.
I also know that I want to liberate myself from working for someone else by becoming a solopreneur. (Does any of this resonate?)
But how will I make money? What will my ultimate product or service be?
This is the question I have been asking myself over and over like I’m on a hamster wheel.
[MOMENT OF VULNERABILITY] Other solopreneurs seem to have their programs all thought out or at least DECIDED upon. Some are working on books, coaching programs, podcasts.
Some are freaking selling feet pics for crying out loud!
Ok so I just observed a part of me comparing myself to others. It’s kinda like a “part popup”.
This “part” of me comparing myself, is a part that only wants my highest good and wants me to set up a plan to be successful, too.
We can call her “Little Molly”.
And so I am writing today to show I am a human on a dedicated spiritual journey, and I STILL don’t have it all figured out.
This is kinda what life is all about: Having analysis paralysis and acting lost AF even when you aren’t really lost.
“Lost” becomes a comfort zone of sorts.
You don’t have to work very hard if you just stay in “I don’t know what to do” mode.
Knowing this, it is time to get out of this undecided space.
I want to create a more finalized DECISION on what I want to aim for.
“Little Molly” deserves it. 😘
This newsletter may feel a little like a journal entry. I am going to write moment by moment whenever a “part” of me shows up and demonstrates worry. I’ll label them [PART POPUP].
If it reads a little gimicky, I did it right 😀
You can’t look back at the progress if you don’t start
The important thing is to just START; Let’s start there.
You might’ve already gotten past the following steps:
✅ Pick something you like that is meaningful to you. Don’t sweat this one, it will GUARANTEED change and morph as you grow.
✅ Get to a place mentally of wanting to liberate yourself from the big man.
What do you need to make sure you get a good start to building your own thing?
You create commitment - At least, that’s what I’ve done.
We all know that the #1 thing that limits our success is not being disciplined.
You can have all the best ideas but if you don’t follow through DAILY, you’re basically not going anywhere.
So I took my interests and decided to go public with talking about them on Twitter and this here newsletter.
I tried doing Twitter posts daily, and that was absolutely ineffective.
Working full-time, it became apparent I didn’t have hours every day to think of twitter posts.
I have since adopted a service to create tweets more efficiently, allowing me to plan in advance and post 3 x a day without devoting hours daily. 🥳
I am still working full-time as a nurse practitioner and the remainder of my time I now delegate to spending with loved ones, taking care of my wellness (exercise etc.), travel, engaging on Twitter, learning new skills for my spiritual journey and writing this newsletter. (My life in a nut shell.)
If you are planning on building a path from scratch, there is likely no road map.
BUT there are tools you can use to make sure you stick with it long enough to create one.
When there is a will, there is a way.
There is no right direction - There is only the next one
It took me weeks to realize this, but THERE IS NO RIGHT NEXT ACTION.
Erase PERFECT from your vocabulary when you’re building a new path for yourself.
Finding the light in a dark room takes time (which is what solopreneurship feels like).
Sometimes you’ll step on a leggo and it’ll fucking hurt or walk into a wall - This is ok. ❤️
Two months ago, I started having this analysis paralysis, wondering WTF I was going to build and who exactly I wanted to help with my knowledge and interests.
I was trying to avoid hitting a wall.
My WTF moment ended about 2 weeks ago when I finally understood that I was wasting time trying to avoid the wall and AGAIN, control shit, instead of just putting myself out there and trialing it.
Sometimes, building your own path involves flinging shit at the wall and figuring out what sticks.
SO, I decided to embrace all my interests: Trauma healing, spirituality, wellness and combining them under the umbrella of Self-mastery. I then created a system to stick with posting like I mentioned above, and now I am here.
Some things have slowly been revealing themselves to me, like:
What people are interested in learning about in these topics is slowly showing itself to me.
I’d like to strive to make youtube videos and share myself that way.
I am studying astrology and realizing I’d love to give natal chart readings as the amount of clarity I have gained from mine has been incredible.
I’ve given thoughts to writing books on spirituality, trauma healing. Creating work books and cards, etc.
None of this is information I would’ve achieved just sitting and thinking about building my own brand.
Getting out of survival mode
For the sake of simplicity let’s leave it at this: Shit is going to bubble up as you attempt to create a new path and cause you to second guess yourself.
Not having a set path before us, as I’ve mentioned in previous letters, is terrifying and keeps us stuck and in “think small” mode.
Even me, as I pursue this path of self-mastery and building a personal brand, I still have my moments where there is a hella nasty inner critic in my head.
But understanding that this is a trauma response, is what keeps me from taking that seriously.
Perfection is also a trauma response that may bubble up.
When you’re embarking on an unknown path, perfectionism HITS HARD to keep you on a certain path of safety, where if you do everything right, you’ll survive.
But these survival skills do NOT apply here.
As you progress forward into building the thing you want, you’ll learn an entirely different set of skills/traits.
Grit, optimism, patience, courage to name a few.
And to be honest, this is a journey: There may be no set product I am working towards, there may be MANY. Many launches and failures along the way.
From here, I have decided that my next best and perfectly IMPERFECT steps are:
Continue showing up with Twitter and newsletters
Continue falling on my face and making mistakes 🙂
I’ll begin posting youtube videos and/or IG videos(aiming for September/October 2023)
I’ll then be launching natal chart readings (aiming for October/November 2023).
Notice How I scheduled mistakes in with my plans.
IT IS INEVITABLE. May as well account for it.
And that’s it - Nothing fancy, or grand. Just working it out as I gain the insight and inspiration to take the next best risk.
With reading this list, “Little Molly” feels satisfied. She feels at ease. ‘
[PART POPUP] And as I write that, another part of me comes up and says “can we really do all this?”
That part also means well. It also cares about me succeeding and surviving these risks.
Whenever this happens, I breath, I soothe, I console, have a good conversationwith myself about it. I hear them out, and redirect to building a path together.
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What next best steps are you aiming for? Where are you going from here? Connect with me over twitter or IG! I’d love to hear about it. ❤️ Toodles!